I’m THAT Mom and I don’t feel guilty about it
I’m the mom who works out. And I make it a priority. And no, I don’t feel guilty about it.
As Moms, there is so much “mom guilt” out there and it can really tear you down. Really, really bring you down. A lot of it we put on ourselves and a lot of it is pushed on us by others. I know many moms are continuously trying to fight off this guilt (me included).
A lot of what this mom guilt results in is putting ourselves last. We focus on our children, our husband, our household, the chores, work, and meeting everyone else’s needs. This means we often forget about ourselves.
This is very unfortunate because if we don’t take care of ourselves this will eventually wear us down too far. It could affect our attitude, relationships, and health. Once we lose all of those, what are we left with?
I was once told by another mom that training for a marathon once you have a child is selfish. My mouth dropped open so fast you would think I had a weight attached to my jaw. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Then I found out she would often have someone watch her children so she could go shopping. How is her spending an hour alone to go shopping any different than the hour I want to spend alone working out?
I hardly ever spend time shopping (but if you do, there’s nothing wrong with that). It’s not something I make a priority for myself (I’m a habitual online shopper, I avoid the actual stores). But I won’t judge you if that’s what you want to do. I don’t care if you just want an hour to go out and sit at a coffee shop. Or sit on your front porch in peace and quiet. Whatever you need to do mama!
Just because we become moms doesn’t mean we put everything we care about aside. I will be the first to admit that this is hard, so hard. I want to spend as much time as possible with my family. I want to take care of them. But I have to balance other things going on in my life and I also need some time to decompress and recharge. Working out or running is how I do that.
I have days where I still feel this guilt. That’s why I set my schedule so I work out at 5 am while everyone is sleeping during the week. Or I go run during Ady’s naptime on the weekends. But sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I just need a break to go do something for myself even while everyone is awake.
This is how I figure it out. I have moments where I wonder if taking the time to do anything other than be with my family is wrong. Because we are constantly judged for what we do. My family is my #1 priority, hands down. No argument.
But I am a priority too.
So, yes, I am that mom. And to the ones judging me, I’m okay with it. My family is well taken care of. They know I love them and would do anything for them. But in order to be the best mom and wife, I need to take care of myself too.
I want to encourage you to follow along in my health journey through what I learn and experience. I hope there is something you can take away from Fit Busy Female that inspires you to start taking control of your health and feeling better every day.